12 Ice Breakers For Building Relationship

The last post in this mini series is all about ice breakers! These are some of our favourite ice breakers that also serve the purpose of getting to know the group. They are so versatile and you can mix and match them as you please. Usually we’ll do these with a smaller group when we’re all sitting round on sofas so it’s relaxed. We have added some free printables to our resource library for some of these ice breakers- make sure you subscribe so you can download them! Here’s our favourite ice breakers for building relationship:

Would you rather?

Ask which one they prefer: Eat pizza or fish & chips? Skydive or bungy jump? Marvel or DC? Work on a sheep farm or dairy farm? Read the book or watch the movie? Drink coke or lemonade? Save money or spend it? You get the picture. You can ask anything you like! We have a list in our library you can print to get you started!

2 Truths & a lie.

This one is exactly that- 2 truths and 1 lie. Each person has a turn to share 3 facts about themselves, 2 of which are true and 1 of which is a lie. The rest of the group has to guess which fact is infact not a fact! You think you know someone.. until they throw you a curveball in this game!

Good, Bad, & God.

This one was introduced to us by our friends who run a young adults connect group. It’s a good one for digging a bit deeper and finding out how someone’s week has really gone. Everyone shares something good that’s happened, something bad that’s happened, and something God did or spoke to them about during the week.

Fun facts.

Have everyone share the same fun fact about themselves. What was the first CD you ever bought? Favourite movie? If you were an animal what would you be? Dream job? Role model? Some answers will definitely show your age as a Youth Leader! We’ve compiled  a list to get you started. Find it in our library.

If your life was a musical…

…which celebrity would play you? What 3 songs would feature? Which actor would play your love interest? Add any other musical related questions you can think of. Take turns sharing! There’s a list for this in our library, too.

12 great ice breakers for building relationships when you're in Youth Ministry. Tried and tested with free printables! Tansquared Youth Ministry


The Natural Confectionery Company have some wrapped lollies which have random questions or conversation starters on the wrappers. They’re cool! Buy a bag of these Fruity Chews and pass them around, taking turns to ask and answer the questions.

Pass it on.

In this ice breaker you pass a ball between each other. The person throwing asks a question and the person catching answers before passing it on to someone else, asking them a question. Questions could be about anything from family to school to future plans.

Another way of doing this is to write the questions on the ball. When someone catches the ball they read out the question under their thumb and share their answer with the group.

6 word memoirs.

Sum up your life in 6 words! This one is awesome to get your group thinking about the big picture and what impact their life has made so far. You could also follow it up with a 6 word prophecy- what kind of impact do you want your life to have in the future?

Board Game Relay.

Battleships, Connect 4, Monopoly Deal, Uno, Jenga, Checkers, Bananagrams, Rummy-O.. the list goes on! Get out all the games you have on hand, set the timer for 5 minutes, and switch games when it goes off. Pick up the new game where the previous players left off. This is heaps of fun when you have multiple games happening at once!


Ask everyone to share something they got out of their bible reading or devotional since you last met. For this ice breaker it’s best to let your group know in advance so they can prepare for it.

Ice breaker bingo.

This one requires you to know a little about your group before you meet, and you will need to put in some effort to make bingo cards. But basically it is a grid with random facts that you can cross off when you meet someone it applies to. Examples are: has blue eyes, has lived in 2 countries, likes spicy food, has 4 cats.. you get the picture! There’s a template in our library for you to print and fill in the blanks.

Conversational Jenga.

We haven’t played this one yet, but it’s on our list! Basically, you buy a plain Jenga set and write a question on each piece. You answer the question on the one you take and then stack it on top, and whoever is playing can get to know each other a little better! It’s the kind of game you could have set up somewhere all the time.

Let’s talk:

  • Which of these ice breakers will you try out with your group?
  • What other games would you add to this list?

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  • I love almost all of these, but I do take exception with one – 2 Truths and a Lie. While I get it’s “just a game”, encouraging and having students practice lying goes against teaching them to be like Christ. And it hints that lying is okay in certain situations… just something to consider. You could easily remove the lying component of the game by partnering two students together, have one of them share two truths out loud with the group, and then have the group guess which truth belongs to which student.

  • This is so resourceful! thank you for putting all of this together! We’re using it for our first girls hang out at our youth this weekend. We’re combining the fun facts and would you rather printable to the jenga game to get to know each other. Thank you thank you thank you!