I Never Wanted To Do Youth Ministry

“I’m not cut out for Youth Ministry. It’s not my calling.”

“Youth requires way too much energy. And teenagers are so needy.”

“I’m barely out of Youth for myself.”

“I feel so awkward around teenagers. The conversation always bombs.”

“I don’t even know what’s ‘cool’ anymore so I definitely won’t relate to teenagers.”

Those statements above are all mine. Can you relate to them?

Honestly, I never wanted to do Youth Ministry. When I was thinking about career options after school, ministry didn’t even cross my mind. I studied Architecture, Ballet, and Chemistry, and I had plans to be a teacher at some point, too. When I finally got connected in church I found the Creative Ministry, and if you’d asked me what I wanted to do with my life when I was 21 that would have been it.

But I also never wanted to do Youth Ministry because I couldn’t see how my passions and skill set would work with it. I thought it’d be a lot of hard work that I wouldn’t enjoy. I didn’t know the first thing about Youth Ministry and I definitely wasn’t qualified for it!

And I also never considered it as an option when it came to serving at Church. I’d put my name down for pretty much everything else except Worship Team.. (because you actually need some sort of talent for that, lol) but I actually never considered Youth as somewhere that I could serve. Everytime I would pass it by.

Yet here I am- volunteering in Youth Ministry with my husband, loving it, and even writing a blog about it! How on earth did I get here?!

It began with honouring my husband.

My husband had always said he’d love to get involved with Youth Ministry sometime. So when he said “let’s do this” I said “yes!” even though I wasn’t totally sold on it! But as we stepped out together I found I actually enjoyed doing Youth Ministry with my husband. And thatkept growing and now it’s something I love!

I believe there’s something powerful about a wife honouring her husband’s calling and backing him 100%. And besides, I can’t expect him to fully back me if I’m not willing to do the same for him first. We wanted to serve in ministry together, and this was how we could.

It also began with honouring God.

By this I mean honouring who God has created you to be, and honouring the gifts he’s given you. Be you. Don’t try to fit the mold of what you think a Youth Pastor should be- be YOU. Steward those gifts of yours (1 Peter 4:10) and pursue them (1 Corinthians 14:1).

For example, I have a gift of creativity and a gift of teaching. If I had just taken a background role in Youth Ministry with the excuse ‘it’s not my thing’, I’d have totally been dishonouring the fact that God gave me gifts that can be used in Youth Ministry. Instead I have embraced these gifts in the context of Youth Ministry, and I am seeing them grow. Not just in me- I am seeing them grow in our students as well.

You’ve got to know that what you do is bigger than you.

Let me say it again- you’ve got to know that what you do is bigger than you. We are working together to build the Kingdom of God, not our own. What you do, and what I do, is bigger than just us. It’s bigger than the group of teenagers sitting in front of you. It’s bigger than your church, it’s bigger than your community. What you do has the potential to impact an entire generation, to change the way they think and speak and live. It has the power to see your community, your little town, your busy city, your vast nation, won for Christ.

You can’t keep saying ‘it’s not my thing’ when God is telling you to jump right in. Start by honouring your spouse, and honouring God and the gifts he’s given you. Know that by doing that you are sowing into something bigger than yourself.

Let’s talk:

  • Tell me, how did you end up in Youth Ministry? Is your story similar to mine?
  • Did you have a similar experience that led you into a different ministry?

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